Many men in Kenya still believe that a town girl is a“mjuaji” (know it all), spoilt with bad morals. You would find a man living in Nairobi going to get a wife upcountry when ready to marry.
A relative once told my boyfriend (now my husband) to avoid Nairobi girls. That relative from upcountry thought that girls found in towns especially Nairobi are bad news and not wife material. My husband did not listen to that and went ahead to marry me and I believe he considers his marriage a happy one. There are many ladies who have been dropped simply because they were brought up in town and the husbands to be thought that they are not the right type.
It is true that though brought up in town are a bit different from the up country ones. They see thinks differently and are likely not to accept some things. The upcountry men may get it difficult to accept the reality of the town life and the town lady may also get it difficult to embrace the reality of village life. One should only know that the two sets of life (village and town) exist and couple can be in either of the two.
Education alone has not enlightened men on this. There are very educated ones who still think the same. Some Professors also have gone ahead to look for wives in the village hoping that is where the good breed comes from. Interestingly, village ladies seem not to prefer village men and would like to be married to men from the cities.
My question is that are village born ladies better than city born ladies if one is looking for a wife? Is ones character determined by where she is born or brought up? I know a lot happens in our cities that can influence the character of an individual.
I think that this issue should be approached case by case. I strongly believe that our cities still have good ladies just like the one my husband got. But there are also rotten ones as well. At the same time the villages also have the two groups. There are village girls who once they come to town become worse. Men should know that marrying a village girl does not mean she will remain there. You will get work in the city and bring that village lady to the city and from there you will have the town girl you have been trying to avoid. It is for this reason that I think people should be judged by their natural character not by where they were brought up.